I know I said that this wasn't going to be updated any more, but I decided that I'm not done with this blog just yet... In my new blog I had started to write about my my previous marriage. I feel that it fits better in this blog. From now on I'll be posting anything that has to do with the past in this one. I'll leave my new blog for my daily life.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Last day of September

Maybe I should do a little recap on September and set some goals for myself in October.

Let's see...

September recap:
  • Heard from the ex for the 1st time since he deployed to Japan.
  • Went to my first Charger game with Josh on Sept. 4th. (Official date #8)
  • My baby turned 8 months old and started cruising around furniture.
  • My 2 year old learned how to ride a bike with training wheels.
  • Spent waaaay too much money and managed to leave $0.21 in my checking account til payday on the 1st. A used double jogging stroller put me over the edge!
  • Visited with friends I haven't seen in awhile.
  • Visited with family I haven't seen in awhile.
  • Lowered my cell phone minutes and cut out the internet to save $50 a month!
  • All of us got colds and still trying to get over them.

October goals/things to do:

  • Set a budget for myself.
  • Put at least $50 in to savings and LEAVE IT THERE!
  • No fast food! There's plenty of food at home to eat.
  • Exercise at least 30 - 60 minutes a day. Gotta put that expensive jogging stroller to use!
  • Spend as much time as I can with my BFF who is leaving to St. Louis, MO on November 1st.
  • Meet up with my Aunt to go over wedding details. Thinking about doing something small in her back yard.
  • ROAD TRIP to El Paso, TX to visit with the boys' paternal grandparents.
  • Work on my Cafepress store. Get Christmas stuff made this month!
  • Work with my 2 year old on potty training!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Ouch, that stung just a little.

My ex mother-in-law (actually Ron's step mom) just told me over the phone that all these years she thought it was because of me that Ron didn't visit her and his dad. She thought it was because of me that she never met C. in person. She thought I was telling him that we couldn't go or that I didn't WANT to go.

Really? Ouch.

My ex MIL has actually been wonderful to me through this whole thing. She was there for me backing me up in the very beginning when my ex called me up from Florida to tell me that he wanted a divorce. She has been nothing but supportive towards me. It's because of how great her and my ex FIL have been that I'm driving all the way to El Paso, TX to let them visit with their grandsons. Grandsons who they've never seen other than in pictures... and if it were left up to Ron they'd never have the chance to meet them.

I was calling her to confirm the dates and let them know that yes, we are actually coming. She seems very grateful that Josh and I are doing this. I think that's why she told me about what she thought of me all these years. She realized that she was wrong... and she actually apologized to me for thinking that about me. I'm not gonna hold it against her. I think she realizes now just how messed up in the head Ron is. She knows that if she's gonna have any chance at all to get to know her grandsons it's gonna be to go through me.

Such a sharp contrast to Ron's biological mom.

Susie.

She got back in touch with me a couple days ago. I should have known better than to trust that she's changed. She's STILL denying that she did anything wrong. I wasn't even going to talk about the past with her. I've moved on. Apparently she hasn't. She just HAD to message me and let me know her side of the story once more. Drop it already will you?!

I promised Josh that I wouldn't talk to her any more. She creates nothing but drama and I really don't need that in my life. She can go back to getting her updates & pictures of the boys from Ron... LOL.

2+ Months Later...

Got a phone call from Ron on the 4th of this month. He called to let me know his number in Japan. Hmmm.... I'm pretty sure it says in our divorce papers that when you move or change your number you're supposed to inform the other parent within 48 hours. It had definitely been 2 months since he deployed to Japan. He claims to have tried to e-mail me when he first arrived. Sure you did.... My e-mail hasn't changed in the past 3 years. His hasn't changed his either so I decided to e-mail him some updates on the boys. I even sent him a picture of the boys that I took of them in July.



Why did I even bother?



I got no response. Not even a, 'thank for the picture." or "wow, they're getting so big!"



Nothing. Nada. Zilch.



A few days later that same picture ended up on New Wife's myspace page in a new album titled, "All Our Boys". I'm sorry, but that doesn't fly with me. You've never met my kids and probably never will. Please don't post pictures of my boys as if they're yours and you love and care about them. I was pretty upset when I saw it, but I wrote the nicest (well, in my opinion) e-mail to both my ex and New Wife.

The e-mail:

Hey Ron,
I'm writing to you about the picture I sent you the other day... I was wondering if you could ask New Wife (
name changed to protect the innocent lol) to please take it off of her myspace page. (If your mom has it up can you ask her to the same?) I sent that to you so you could see how big they were getting. I don't mind if you sent it to her to look at... you do what you want, but I'd rather not have the boys pictures up on other peoples pages. I know how you feel about posting crap on myspace and other sites like that. Thanks for understanding.

-T


Lol I guess that second to the last sentence is kinda funny considering the fact that here I am posting it for who ever to see on my blog. And maybe I shouldn't be so petty about things. A friend helped put things in perspective for me. They can do what they want with the pictures. They can say and do what they want on their Myspace of Facebook pages. I'm the one with the boys. I'm the one who gets the hugs and kisses everyday. I get to tuck them in at night knowing that their safe and sound with me.

Ok so call me petty. It still bugs me.

Oh did I mention that in her about me section she wrote something like, "I'm 28 years old. I'm the mom of 5 boys and I'm married to the most wonderful man in the world. Life is best when I'm with him. Come home soon daddy!" Puke. So yeah apparently she has 5 boys... She's given birth to 2. She's including Tre, Ron's oldest who she's never met and MY 2 boys. Ok lady, keep living in your fantasy land. Do it while you can... before Ron moves on to New Wife #4 and leaves you in the dust. Just like he did to New Wife #1 (and son #1), New Wife #2 (me and son #2 & #3).

Anyway, mission accomplished. I got an e-mail back saying, "Done and done. Anything else I can do for you ma'am." Ugh. Always the smartass. I thanked him and left it at that.

Haven't heard from him since.

Random Divorced Mom Blog

Came across this blog tonight.

Just spent the past hour or so reading it.

Different divorce situation than mine.

It actually sounds a lot like what I went through as a kid when my mom and dad got a divorce.

Very thankful my kids didn't have to go through a custody battle.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

PSP Masks

I decided to get creative today and I came up with these masks for PSP. I figured I might as well share them with everyone. These are the first ones I've ever made and they're kinda crazy looking, but I like them.

I'm making them free for personal use. These are not to be used for commercial use what so ever. Credit isn't needed, but if you take them a comment left on this post would be nice. :)

Click on them to make them larger. When they're full size just right-click and save them to your Mask folder. If you have any questions, just ask!








Saturday, September 26, 2009

Road Trips!

Like I mentioned yesterday, I've been really busy all Summer. Lot's of stuff has happened and I wish I could squeeze all the updates in to one blog. I'm sure I could if I tried, but I doubt anyone would want to read it. I'm sure if I can remember to write in here everyday a little bit will be talked about everyday.

Lately Josh and I have been talking a lot about the near future. Our wedding date is February 20th, 2010 and we're still not exactly sure where we're going to be living once we're married. We're not even sure we want to stay here in SD. We've talked about a couple different places we might like to live. Two places that stand out are Tucson, AZ and St. Louis, MO. Two VERY different places! We have our reasons for each place.

In Tucson is where one of Josh's good friends from his mission lives with his wife and their kids. Tucson would be a great place to live as far as Josh's line of work. He works in heating and air. (HVAC installer/tech)

Then there's St. Louis... my best friend, her hubby and their 2 girls are from there and they're moving back there on November 1st. Her hubby is getting out of the Marine Corps and he can't re-enlist because his ankle is really messed up. She's been my best friend for the past 3+ years. She's been through the ups and downs of my previous marriage. Been there for the births of my babies. She was there through my divorce. She's also been here for the newest chapter of my life. Her older daughter and my oldest son are the best of friends. Basically I can't imagine my life without them in it. She's always lived right up the street from me and I could always come over when ever just to hang out. Would it be totally crazy to follow them halfway across the US? Hmm... maybe. Until you start to compare home prices!

Decisions, decisions.

We plan to take road trips to both places before we get married. First stop will be Tucson. Well, more like a pit stop... We're actually headed to El Paso, TX. Why would we want to go there you ask? Well, they boys' paternal grandparents live there. Ron's dad and step mom. They've never met the boys and I think they deserve to see their grandsons. They've stuck up for me from the beginning.... when they knew their son was in the wrong. (Unlike some other people I know.. cough cough... HIS BIO MOM.... cough cough.) So we'll be headed there at the end of October. Tucson, AZ is right on the way.

We'll see how this road trip goes before we start planning for the one to St. Louis.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Where Did the Summer Go?!

Seriously, I blinked and it was gone! It's already the end of September and October will be here by next Thursday...

I've been soooo busy with my boys, with Josh...with LIFE. I feel like I'm going and going. Especially since the boys are getting older and I'm able to have a little bit more free time during the days. I'm FINALLY able to get back in to the things I used to do when I didn't have any kids. Knitting, scrapbooking, graphic design.

Mainly I've been working on my Cafepress store. I started my store back in March 2006 and it's geared towards military families... wives, girlfriends, fiancees, kids, etc. I've added tons of new designs. I started a facebook page for it. I made a new logo. I made tons of freebie icons and graphics. I'm also planning to change the name of it soon... Not sure when that will be. If anyone is interested you can find my store here: Taylor's Military Designs... and More.

Hopefully I'll be able to squeeze in some blogging time every now and then too. :)